What do you do when loss comes out of nowhere and you can’t find your footing again? In this practical and hope-filled conversation, Shaina Hargens joins me to share the resilience map she developed out of her own experience with grief and loss—a tool designed not to give you someone else’s answers, but to help you discover your own “next right thing.” Shaina explains why nobody else can tell you what will move you forward (not even her), why writing things down externalizes the “debris” sitting on your foundation, and how turning your feelings into words on a page creates room for God to work with what’s been weighing you down. This conversation offers a refreshing alternative to generic self-help advice, instead pointing listeners toward a personalized, prayer-infused process of self-discovery, rewriting your own narrative, and moving from mere survival into meaningful growth. If you’ve ever felt stuck, spinning your wheels, or unsure how to take the next step after a loss you never saw coming, this episode offers both permission and a practical starting point: pick up a pen and begin.
Takeaways
1. Nobody Else Has Your Answer—Only You Know What You Need Next
2. Writing Externalizes Your Pain So You Can Actually Do Something With It
3. You May Need to Write the Same Pain Five Different Ways Before It Moves
4. The Enemy Wants You Spinning Your Wheels, Stuck, or Burned Out—Movement Itself Is Resistance
5. God Doesn’t Waste Anything—Every Loss Can Be Used for His Glory
6. Our Bodies and Souls Aren’t Designed for the “Black Hole” of Our Devices
Themes
Grief and Loss • Resilience and Personal Growth • Journaling as Healing • The Resilience Map • Moving From Survival to Growth • God’s Redemptive Use of Pain • Rewriting Your Narrative • Spiritual Warfare Against Stagnation • Trusting God’s Leading • Self-Discovery Through Writing • Prayer as Surrender • Community and Sisterhood • Foundational Truths • Screen Time vs. Reflection • Designed for Greatness • The Next Right Thing
This is for:
✓ Processers of unexpected loss
✓ People who feel stuck, burned out, or like they’re “spinning their wheels”
✓ Those looking for a practical, actionable grief tool
✓ Writers, journalers, or anyone curious about the therapeutic power of putting feelings on paper
✓ People who feel pressure to heal “the right way”
✓ Anyone questioning whether their pain has purpose
✓ Those overwhelmed by comparison
✓ Believers wanting to understand resilience and growth through a spiritual, rather than purely psychological, lens
✓ People who feel disconnected or numb from excessive screen time
✓ Anyone in community-building or ministry work
✓ Those who need a gentle nudge to start journaling
Shaina’s Blueprint: https://shainahargens.com/lp/resilience-map/
Shaina’s retreats: Shaina Hargens
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